All relationships come with an expiry date
If I am not mistaken, this is a line that I had read in one of the interviews of Pooja Bhatt. Even if it’s not her original quote, or even if she did not say it, somewhere, and somehow, I have always attributed this line to her. I am not too fond of Pooja Bhatt as an actor, but I am definitely enamored by her spunky, sprightly and absolutely sensational quotes and interviews that she gives. Whether she means them, or they are said only for effect, I cannot comment, but I have always found them meaningful and truthful; to put it crudely, she catches life’s morality from the balls.
I come back again to Mr. Ramesh Somasundaram’s blog*. In that he has questioned the mysteries of relationships in a wonderfully eloquent manner. I have gone through a few very deep but failed relationships and have not been able to unravel the mystery even by one layer of the complexities that wrap them.
But apart from the well-stated thoughts mentioned in the blog, I would like to add that if we enter each relationship with the above maxim in mind we could at least reduce the pain that accompanies most relationships, especially when they get over.
Whether we grow apart, or one of the partner dies a relationship does come back with an indelibly stamped expiry date. And like all products, if we attempt to use it after that “expiry date” we will be hurt, sad and immensely ill.
In Paap (The Sin), Pooja Bhatt’s latest film, which she has also directed, there is beautiful verbal debate between the heroine’s (Kaya) father and her lover. The father wants Kaya to renounce the world, join a monastery, because he wants to protect her from the pain of any worldly relationships going wrong; hence he wants her to forsake all such earthly desires and take the path of God. The lover retorts that we cannot stop smiling for fear of the crying; we cannot stop living for the fear of dying; we cannot stop forming relationships for the fear of losing. In fact, the desire for renouncing all desires is also just another desire. Then why should that desire be considered holy and the love that he feels for Kaya be termed as “sin”?
In another scene, the hero tells the heroine that once he leaves, he will not even look back and think about her; he wants to spend a lifetime with her; but not a lifetime with her memories and brooding over it.
This film merely asserts the maxim that all relationships come with an expiry date- so we should enjoy it while it lasts and move on when they end.
Carcasses, whether of humans, animals or emotions, always stink.
[This post was originally written in my older blog]
[*Romesh Somasundaram stopped blogging after a few months]
[re-posted with ecto]