Don’t get trapped in self-pity: It’s a trap that is very difficult to avoid. Staying alone means facing your thoughts in solitary confinements. And in this it is easy to get into a self-piteous mode. Socialize as much as your mental disposition allows. And if you are an introvert, try not to be in front of the internet for too long. The one-way silent communication adds to the dullness and depression. A television is a better option, since visuals-with-sound destroys the silence and the monotony.
Don’t drink alone: Pretty much linked to above. Once that sadness creeps in, liquor seems the best mate to share it with. After a while, you start enjoying the drinks with some superbly sad songs – looking forward to it daily and eventually get addicted. Simply keep a strong check on your will-power; and if you must drink alone, let it not be at your place. The best idea is not to keep either liquor bottles or its accessories (soda, cold drinks) at your place at all. I have been through the routine of drinking alone, playing some sad songs and generally feeling sorry honestly, it didn’t help to alleviate the pain. Rather, it aggravated. And then, to assuage the enhanced pain, the next evening would be more depressive the vicious circle simply goes on! You are not a Hindi film hero, and the crescendo of the background song doesn’t end the scene – the hangover remains suspended heavily in your brain and body! Also, if you are a smoker, the intake can substantially increase, so keep an eye on the consumption!
Don’t tolerate dirtiness: Dirty socks and half-finished bananas peeking from underneath the bed make interesting and humorous stories, but they also add to the heavy atmosphere. There is nothing better to cheer you than a good, clean house. If you happen to have an extra bed, then use it as a bed not as your store-house! I don’t follow this very religiously, but when the pile of newspapers threatens to outgrow Mt. Everest, I take action at once. Cleaning can be cathartic!
Don’t make it a pub/rest-house for others: Bachelors staying alone are easy preys for friends using it a as a pub/rest house. Once in a while it is ok, but if it is becoming a regular syndrome, put your foot down firmly. Certainly, don’t allow friends to make your house a “getaway resort” for some “action/fun”! I am very categorical when it comes to the last issue, often to the point of rudeness.
Don’t shy away from buying amenities: Just because you are staying alone doesn t mean you have to live a corporal punishment! Spend money judiciously on as much amenities that are necessary. The difference in my stay in Nepal and Agra is that here I bought all the required stuff (TV, DVD, fridge, proper bed, etc) and I can clearly feel the difference. Of course, my house is not as full as it should be (in fact the large bare drawing room is fit for a cricket match) but still I have enough facilities to make a comfortable living.
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